Caged Tongue

Read the Bill of Rights, and you'll undoubtedly see something about "freedom of speech". No matter how many times you read that though, you'll realize that you can never truly say whatever you want. Politically correct or not, there are certain consequences for anything that comes out of our mouths. It can be as small as saying, "No, you were fat before you put the dress on", to criticizing the president, there will be certain consequences. The idea of freedom of speech is a novel idea in theory, but in reality is greatly flawed. Truthfully, the truth hurts. Somethings that could be said shouldn't. The society we live in could not function if everyone really had the freedom to say whatever they wanted to. Hearts would be broken, families torn asunder, friendships ruined, and the list goes on. There is no need to lie, but whole truths are not always welcome. TO BE CONTINUED........

Battle of the Sexes

Some wars are never meant to be won. While some wars should never be fought. Why is there such tension between the sexes? Men battle for dominance, while women battle for independence. The hardest man hopes that when he goes to bed at night that its next to a soft woman. The most "independent" woman hopes that when something goes wrong that she will have a man that can fix it. Dispute this if you want, but search your heart and you'll find it to be true. One of the craziest is things is when you see homosexual couples. With men you have one strong while one plays the more feminine role. With women you have a soft woman with the must dude looking woman. Why even go after the traits of sex you claim you don't want? The truth is because you can't escape the nature of how relationships are supposed to go. There have to be opposite roles.This is the way it works in all other forms of life. Animals don't even think about it. Sadly for humans, sometimes thinking can be a liability rather than a strength. Over thinking can be detrimental. It's simple to go with what nature has ingrained into us, but over thinking leads to the ill-fated "what if". "What if", is a thought process that has spiraled mankind into some very dark and disturbing choices and realizations. Another problem that plagues the sexes is gender bias. There is this idea that because a man is not a woman that he can't possibly have any idea or say about a woman's body or vice versa. This flawed argument is proven asinine every time a woman goes to see a man doctor or vice versa. This seems so logically, but sadly is often overlooked. So quick is the retort heard, "You don't know because you're not......". While certain distinct different physical characteristics can't be experienced by one gender or the other does not completely dismantle the ability for there to be some kind of understanding of the opposing sex. If this were not possible, then single parents with opposite gender children would be doomed for failure. It is accepted in that case passively, but when overly presented it is appalling to even mention. A woman says, "I have the right to abort a child because it' my body!" True enough it may be her body, but why do women forget that half of that unborn life belongs to the father. Far too often is that retort thrown out with no fore thought or regard to all the factors included. " It's my body!" No one is debating that fact, but don't be so naive as to believe that someone of the opposing gender just might know a little something that could be useful in what you do with "your body".

Family Ties

Just what constitutes a family? Mother, father, brother, sister are all terms that usually fall under this category. How often though, are those just titles rather than terms of endearment? Technically all that hold those terms can rightfully be considered family. Then you go out a little further and you add terms like aunt, uncle, grandparents, cousins. All these people can be called family. Who hasn't heard the saying, "blood is thicker than water"? Is this truly the case though? So often those we hold close are only closer to hurt us rather than help us. Sadly just having genetic ties does not really make you family. Family in the purest since of the term. That which is people that are there for you. People that are in your corner and truly care about you. More times than not, the people we surround ourselves with are rarely there because of their similar blood line. We live in a society where mothers as well as fathers can simply walk away from their inherited responsibility of caring for their children, or even worse can cause them harm. The same goes for children's regard for their parents. Yes simply having the same blood does not a family make. No sadder condition is there than to have no one that you can rely on. People that you can trust, cry with, hang with, and share genuine love. The very notion of family is that those people can call on each other in times of happiness and sorrow. No greater feeling is there than to know that that there are people you can call upon as family. Friends and family are constant necessity that no individual can escape. We all need people. Often more times than we realize people need us as well. It is circle of care, concern, and love that gives us the strength to endure the pressures and trials we face on a daily basis. So ask yourself who are tied to your family? TO BE CONTINUED...............

Even Stranger Bedfellows

Where did these problems begin you ask? A history lesson on the plight of Adam and Eve should answer that question. So let's fast forward to today. You see a couple walking down the street and you say to yourself, "Wonder what they see in each other?". Why? because there is so meting in most of us that tells us that a relationship must fit into this box that we see in our mind's eye in order for it to work. What prevents us from being more open minded? Why do we cling to these archaic perceptions of what a model couple should be? Think of the ironies we plague ourselves with to enter a relationship. Opposites attract, yet its good to have stuff in common. Mixed raced couples get the best of both worlds, and the worst of both worlds. Age ain't nothing but a number til you rob the cradle, or the grave. These beliefs in fact hinder more pairings than it helps to create. Do we really know what makes a good relationship? Somethings just work. There are no instructions other than those you can't touch like, love passion, trust, commitment, and sanity. These simple yet complex ingredients can't be taught. They can only be felt, experienced, and lived. So the next time you ask yourself, "Why", ask yourself instead, "Why not". TO BE CONTINUED.......

Strange Bedfellows

So here's the thing about relationships: they are harder to build than a card castle.
Try and try, you mite get two or more tiers, but then it all comes crashing down. Sadly this is the honest truth. Now you're thinking, "I know people that have been together forever", or "I'm not like that with my partner". True enough, there are long lasting relationships. They are hard to build, but not impossible. It takes time, effort, sweat, determination, and even a little stubbornness. Why is this? It is because you are asking two people in essence to occupy the same space. Even science buff will tell you, that two objects of matter cannot occupy the same space. Yet, we still try it anyway in hopes of being the couple that defies that odds. Now advocacy of singleness or being alone is not the aim here. Simply to enlighten people to their own displaced misgivings of idyllic relationships. Even the best built relationships have their share of problems. Does this mean we should not attempt to enter one? No. Again an immovable irony that perpetuates throughout human life. It's that walk against the wind mentality that is somehow genetic wired into us all despite age, race, creed, color, or status. In today's era we really see the irony that plays a part in relationships. Women with their so-called "independence", but let something go wrong and who do they run to. Men with their embrace your "feminine side", yet are mocked for showing their true emotions. Lets not even get started on gender assignments or homosexuality. It often seems as that both genders somehow got lost along the way when Relationships 101 was being taught. Cheating, lying, abuse all these things plague today's couples. It is a sad predicament. Where did the problem begin? TO BE CONTINUED.....

Ideas

So as this new year starts, the air is filled with resolution talks. Of all these "new year" resolutions, ask yourself, how many are really new? How many years has our "new year" resolutions included; losing weight, being a better person, reconnecting with lost friends, get a better job, etc. The list is endless. So in actuality shouldn't they be called "old or previous years" resolutions? Until you actual accomplish what you set out to do different in the new year, it is no longer a resolution, but rather a broken promise. These resolutions become a lie we tell ourselves at the beginning of every new year so we can feel like it is a step in the right direction. IT'S NOT! It is a step in the wrong direction. A step towards another year that we doom ourselves to mediocrity. So here's an idea: ACCOMPLISH WHAT YOU SET OUT TO DO! That is what winners do. Stop making pointless excuses for yourself to excuse yourself from reality. You are not big boned, you're fat. You don't have your own system, you're a disorganized clutz. You're not going to get around to to it if you keep going around it. It's a new decade people. We are in a time like never before. Let's do something memorable this decade and be a winner.