Family Ties

Just what constitutes a family? Mother, father, brother, sister are all terms that usually fall under this category. How often though, are those just titles rather than terms of endearment? Technically all that hold those terms can rightfully be considered family. Then you go out a little further and you add terms like aunt, uncle, grandparents, cousins. All these people can be called family. Who hasn't heard the saying, "blood is thicker than water"? Is this truly the case though? So often those we hold close are only closer to hurt us rather than help us. Sadly just having genetic ties does not really make you family. Family in the purest since of the term. That which is people that are there for you. People that are in your corner and truly care about you. More times than not, the people we surround ourselves with are rarely there because of their similar blood line. We live in a society where mothers as well as fathers can simply walk away from their inherited responsibility of caring for their children, or even worse can cause them harm. The same goes for children's regard for their parents. Yes simply having the same blood does not a family make. No sadder condition is there than to have no one that you can rely on. People that you can trust, cry with, hang with, and share genuine love. The very notion of family is that those people can call on each other in times of happiness and sorrow. No greater feeling is there than to know that that there are people you can call upon as family. Friends and family are constant necessity that no individual can escape. We all need people. Often more times than we realize people need us as well. It is circle of care, concern, and love that gives us the strength to endure the pressures and trials we face on a daily basis. So ask yourself who are tied to your family? TO BE CONTINUED...............

Even Stranger Bedfellows

Where did these problems begin you ask? A history lesson on the plight of Adam and Eve should answer that question. So let's fast forward to today. You see a couple walking down the street and you say to yourself, "Wonder what they see in each other?". Why? because there is so meting in most of us that tells us that a relationship must fit into this box that we see in our mind's eye in order for it to work. What prevents us from being more open minded? Why do we cling to these archaic perceptions of what a model couple should be? Think of the ironies we plague ourselves with to enter a relationship. Opposites attract, yet its good to have stuff in common. Mixed raced couples get the best of both worlds, and the worst of both worlds. Age ain't nothing but a number til you rob the cradle, or the grave. These beliefs in fact hinder more pairings than it helps to create. Do we really know what makes a good relationship? Somethings just work. There are no instructions other than those you can't touch like, love passion, trust, commitment, and sanity. These simple yet complex ingredients can't be taught. They can only be felt, experienced, and lived. So the next time you ask yourself, "Why", ask yourself instead, "Why not". TO BE CONTINUED.......

Strange Bedfellows

So here's the thing about relationships: they are harder to build than a card castle.
Try and try, you mite get two or more tiers, but then it all comes crashing down. Sadly this is the honest truth. Now you're thinking, "I know people that have been together forever", or "I'm not like that with my partner". True enough, there are long lasting relationships. They are hard to build, but not impossible. It takes time, effort, sweat, determination, and even a little stubbornness. Why is this? It is because you are asking two people in essence to occupy the same space. Even science buff will tell you, that two objects of matter cannot occupy the same space. Yet, we still try it anyway in hopes of being the couple that defies that odds. Now advocacy of singleness or being alone is not the aim here. Simply to enlighten people to their own displaced misgivings of idyllic relationships. Even the best built relationships have their share of problems. Does this mean we should not attempt to enter one? No. Again an immovable irony that perpetuates throughout human life. It's that walk against the wind mentality that is somehow genetic wired into us all despite age, race, creed, color, or status. In today's era we really see the irony that plays a part in relationships. Women with their so-called "independence", but let something go wrong and who do they run to. Men with their embrace your "feminine side", yet are mocked for showing their true emotions. Lets not even get started on gender assignments or homosexuality. It often seems as that both genders somehow got lost along the way when Relationships 101 was being taught. Cheating, lying, abuse all these things plague today's couples. It is a sad predicament. Where did the problem begin? TO BE CONTINUED.....

Ideas

So as this new year starts, the air is filled with resolution talks. Of all these "new year" resolutions, ask yourself, how many are really new? How many years has our "new year" resolutions included; losing weight, being a better person, reconnecting with lost friends, get a better job, etc. The list is endless. So in actuality shouldn't they be called "old or previous years" resolutions? Until you actual accomplish what you set out to do different in the new year, it is no longer a resolution, but rather a broken promise. These resolutions become a lie we tell ourselves at the beginning of every new year so we can feel like it is a step in the right direction. IT'S NOT! It is a step in the wrong direction. A step towards another year that we doom ourselves to mediocrity. So here's an idea: ACCOMPLISH WHAT YOU SET OUT TO DO! That is what winners do. Stop making pointless excuses for yourself to excuse yourself from reality. You are not big boned, you're fat. You don't have your own system, you're a disorganized clutz. You're not going to get around to to it if you keep going around it. It's a new decade people. We are in a time like never before. Let's do something memorable this decade and be a winner.